So what is love?
(From the conversation)
From what the girl said:
"She can just love without commitment, and he can also love her ..."
"There are two adequate people without complexes who love each other just because they are ..."
And at the same time these thoughts of the same girl:
"If a man received emotions from a woman in the form of sex, a good emotion, then he returns this energy in the form that pleases a woman: flowers, beautiful lingerie, dresses, gifts, attention and care ..."
"If a man sees unwashed dishes, then do not grumble at a woman, and she herself washes ..."
"What if there is no payback, we must leave ..."
"A smart woman loves herself, but does not enter into a relationship in order to love another and sacrifice herself ..."
A set of completely opposite thoughts of the same girl. Relations without obligations - on the one hand and sex for gratitude rather material - on the other. And this is about love, and a little about sex conversation. So what is love?
The conversation was short ...
And I certainly responded to her replies:
"And if a man gave her an unforgettable sex? So what? He should wait for her soup, cleaning and attention with care? Then where about love? It's more like a mutually beneficial relationship on sex! "
"Can we give each other good sex and not wait for this care? Good sex tones and stimulates the mood. If you take care of each other, then regardless of sex, but as loving each other people. But do not wait for care in return, but give this care and love a person! "
"Perhaps it will be more correct to have fun having sex, giving a storm of emotions and just respecting your partner as a person. And to understand that each of the partners still has a personal space that it is better not to violate, but to accept him or her the way it is. "
But this is not about love. This is most likely about partnerships, which at the very beginning the girl called "love without obligations."
I had a feeling after the conversation that "love without obligations" in the opinion of this girl is:
She gives good sex, good emotion.
He responds with care, attention, flowers, dresses, gifts, beautiful underwear ... etc, etc.
So what is love?
"What is love? How to define this feeling, so diverse in its object and intensity? When we say, for example: "I love hot coffee with milk," or "I love my children," we express very different feelings: in the first case, we just express our preference for something that gives us pleasure. In the second - his parental affection for dear beings.
If the word "love" expresses so different feelings - then, maybe, it should be and call it differently. In Greek, for this there are three terms: the word "e rose" denotes a physical, carnal attraction; the word "phil and I" - friendly feelings, and the word "aga pi" - sublime, spiritual love. And, to mix these terms the Greek language does not allow.
Nevertheless, it can not be denied that, despite all the differences, different kinds of love have something in common and something in common. This common is that pleasant, joyful and bright feeling that she delivers to both the loving and the beloved. Leibniz defined love as "a feeling of joy that comes from the happiness of one's neighbor." In essence, the nature of love is incomprehensible: it is like a guest from that ideal and beautiful world to which our soul subconsciously stretches, but which in its completeness and perfection is still inaccessible to us " .
("Love is the queen of virtues", Bishop A. Mileant)
"The feeling of joy that comes from the happiness of one's neighbor" (Leibniz) - this thought appealed to me.
And one more thought that defines all the disputes and conversations around such feelings as Love:
"In essence, the nature of love is incomprehensible: it is like a guest from that ideal and beautiful world to which our soul subconsciously stretches, but which in its completeness and perfection is still inaccessible to us."
So what is love?
"REFLECTIONS" Grandpa Go