Today: 22 September 2018
Why do some women men surround care, give them gifts, endlessly spend money on them, and the other goes to a modest bouquet on March 8?
If you belong to the second category, then you have good news: generosity - a quality inherent in the nature of every man, is only to know how to awaken in his chosen one. We find out what 6 methods make your lover to be attentive and generous.
Why do we like to indulge gifts of small children? They know how to rejoice in them sincerely! Wishing to once again see the delight of the next surprise on the child's face, we are not too lazy to spend money and time and get one more toy (even one hundred and twenty-fifth and not too necessary), a book, anything! Children's spontaneity and the ability to rejoice in small things should be learned: the more joyfully you respond to everyone, even a very small gift from your beloved, the more he will want to please you again. Of course, it's not about pretending - insincerity is always felt and will do you a disservice. But to learn sometimes to "include" a little girl who accepts gifts with admiration and joy, it is possible and necessary.
Generosity goes hand in hand with the desire to care and protect. If your man does not fully correspond to the image of the knight-defender, it is worthwhile to think: do you yourself give him this opportunity? The image of an independent and independent "iron lady" can become so familiar that we gradually forget to show women's fragility and weakness - and if that's the case, then the man sometimes does not assume that we expect attention from him. Begin to ask your loved one for help - even if it's difficult for you to do it first, and your inner voice will insistently say: "I will manage myself!" One of the basic needs of a man is to feel needed, and if you give him this feeling, he will respond to you with generosity and sincere care.
A woman who envies the chosen one with enviable enthusiasm for greed, but who does not know how to thank from the heart, only contributes to the fact that her man will become more and more greedy and mean every day. To love wanted to spend money on you, appreciate the efforts he has made and certainly praise his generosity - tell us how this quality is important to you and how you admire his male concern and attention to you. Sincere thanks and admiration can work miracles - even the most economical man will want to endlessly surround you with care and surprise with gifts just like that, without any reason.
Men, unfortunately (or fortunately?), Do not know how to read thoughts, and hints, as a rule, are difficult to understand. Therefore, if your man is alien to the manifestation of generosity, and you are upset, do not expect that he "will guess" about the reasons for your discontent - he will not guess! Tell your beloved about your desires - but not in the form of reproaches ("You always feel sorry for me for money!"), Comparisons ("But Ole's husband gives flowers without any reason!") Or uncompromising demands ("I want you to buy me a coat "). The best way is not to criticize or manipulate, but to tell about your feelings. A loving man will want to please you with at least a bouquet of flowers, if you sincerely confess: "I would be very pleased if you would often make me gifts - for me so much means your attention!"
Sometimes we ourselves seem to block generosity in our beloved person, sometimes without even realizing it. Did it happen that to the man's question "What should I give you, dear?" You answered: "I have everything I need, do not waste money"? Or, perhaps, you chastised the chosen one for too expensive a gift and even offered to return it to the store? Keep in mind: this reaction is a superpowerful "muffler" of man's generosity: what is the reason to take care of a woman who "has everything" and who does not consider herself worthy of expensive gifts? If you are looking at women surrounded by male attention, wondering how they achieve such an attitude, here is the answer: they are simply not afraid to wish and are willing to accept - with gratitude, but with dignity, without fear of "debt" and without trying act as accountant, counting every man spent a penny.
Generosity - a quality that can develop quickly enough, we need only to create the proper atmosphere. If you want a man to be generous toward you, learn to be generous yourself - giving attention, time and energy to yourself and your family, do not skimp on nice words and emotions to make surprises for no reason, give small gifts - in a word, cultivate generosity in your relationship: inspired by your mood, the man he gradually begins to become more generous and attentive.